teri khushboo hi hai bas ab mere khyaal mein
teri hi saansein bas jaayein ab mere ehsaas mein
ye kaise jaadoo hai
ya kaisa hai ye nasha
dhoob jaayein jismein sada
zindagi ki talash mein

heart to heart...few lines

fansle bhi hai, aur karibiyan bhi

ruk ke chalte hain, darde ehsas bhi

khafa bhi unse aur hai wafai bhi

disha mein hain hum

aur kahin khoye bhi....

why the past bothers so much

y unlimited doubts about the future

while  i like her so much

and i miss her so much

Wish I knew the answer

wish she could tell the answer…

daldal hai koi dhansta gaya

jitni ki koshish fansta gaya

kaise bachun kuch samajh nahin

chahta tha jeena, martaa gayaa

Breaking through at right time...

Today I feel like writing about a significant sutr or Law that prevails in our lives:

There were certain questions that kept bothering me many times and I had to give my verdict , a question like "Did this particular thing or person helped me elevate or did it become the hurdle and prevented growth?"


There are many things of such nature and certain people , about who I dont know whether to credit them for things that I achieved or to discredit them for things that I didnt achieve in my life so far , this question remained a question for years and whilst this ambiguity, i would keep hopping between my two verdicts (favouring and against)

Untill recently in a point of time when consiousness was little kind and responded : That things can be both at the same time: "A reason for elevation and a reason for bloackage"

I though of testing and verifying this answer which easily got applied to all the things and people that I was querying about.

And one fine day identification of this law got reinforced when I heard Hnble Osho explaining that how a chicken is safe in an egg shell and how mandatory is for it to break the shell to be able to prevent from death and to come out and grow in the world. Just like the same way a minute seed needs to break hard shell of soil to come out and grow like a big tree.

These examples clarify how: both- having and removing the shell is crucial to grow in life.

And one must reaaly be carefull in life and build competency and toughness to be able to break the bondages at the right time.

Like in my case there were people who I would creadit for my carreer growth and at the same time I had to breaktheir Idea of my carreer to be able to become what I wanted to be or wht I want to be.

Have seen lot many people who live with other's Ideas about their own life.
I seriously think and hope that they become capable of breaking the shell.
I thinks thats what probably means "Break free" and in a way something that shows your freedom.

Adversity: a force to make you more successfull! an example:

Today while on my way to the office , I met a person who I have seen many times in my office, had noticed his ordeal while he walks, I got a chance to have a conversation with this guy who’s apparently jolly and sends positive vibes always unlike many others who are mostly dull or worried about something or the other, despite all the fitness they got.

So coming back to the point, about this guy, I came to know he was a Project Manager who has 3-4 years work experience in US with a couple compnaies, prsently in Singapore with HCL and will probably join other here if project offshores, mahn!! very choosy isnt it!, atleast no less choosy than me when it comes to continuing in a job, I mean in no way he had a different career outlook than mine or most of us as if his disability didn’t exist for him. After the meeting I recalled a popular phrase “if life throws lemons at you, learn to make lemonade” , probably his was one of the fittest examples.

To me personally one question bothers a lot, don’t know about others, that what if I was not born with full ability mental or physical, what if tomorrow something happens and I am not the same mentally or physically, life is uncertain and you definitely cannot predict future plus these insurance companies keep reminding you of that in one or more creative ways still pretty decently though, the reality could be worse or far worse, now the fact is World will definitely be different towards you, all those friends and relatives around you may disappear or most of them will. World (this material world) will treat you differently. How are you going to handle it or even how are the people in such situation handling it?

As it is we have developed mounting Ego’s , a small jerk on our ego keeps us depressed whole day or weeks in many cases, god knows what is the situation with them or might be with us, when you loose even last single attention you are getting today….it might scare but I got my lesson meeting this guy who I referred above.

Your world is because of you, you are the centroid, and literally if know making lemonade nuthng at all will stop you, world is big, opportunities are many, only thing you would need is the trust on yourself and emotional toughness, you’ll strike back at life with more power, as I said this guy is a project manager and not more than 33 I guess, seems pretty young, this reason of young appearance could be his healthy optimistic and jolly nature too. The point is he is young contrary to many fit! People who are stagnant in their careers.

I heard a famous philosopher who was once quoting great doctor/psychotherapist: ‘Lelon’ a great poet who had usually short legs, he said :

“ how does the length of the legs matter, feet in anycase will touch ground if you’re standing on the ground! Rather short feet will make you sit on the chair! Lelon sat on the highest of the chairs…. “
Meaning of “short feet will make you sit on the chair” : any one having long legs wont be sitting on the chair since his foots will remain on ground only

The point is: it’s the opposite force that pushes you to make the invert journey and there actually are endless such example one my favorite is of Steve jobs (Apple computers: CEO) , see below vedio for further insight..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1R-jKKp3NA

thanks for reading the article, leave your opinions if you feel so, I just thot of sharing my learning and experience and just another humble request that lets be little sensitive towards specially abled people for you never know when you replace shoes, so lets try building sensitive society…
Thanks
Nitin
(pls bear with spellings , grammer don’t have much time correcting them )

Acquaintance Vs Friends...

"Friends" the word has grown its ambit multiple times and is still growing...... but i'll rather say that its a much abused word, , in the process of growing ambit the word is actually loosing its Sanctity. I strongly feel the word must be restored to its real meaning..

A Friend must be the one who is a friend not just an acquaintance be it new or old, acquaintances have many kinds - from school, college, office, relations, neighbour etc...

In each case we begin with a work-sake relation, then depending on chemistry level of acquaintance deepens to doing personal conversations, going out for good times together and thats when you start accepting people as 'friends'...... you start relying on them start taking them as granted for you, presuming you are now friends and will remain as friends come whatever .

All these chemical reactions and strong feelings merely on the basis that you have good professional relationship, you share good jokes together, you have fun together.

Then someday a mere mis understanding pops in and you witness those unexplored unseen sides of people where One kind would simply go by the fact what a third party has downloaded to him, without giving a bit of personal intelligence or a rational view, and the other kind multiplies the mis understanding up to an irrevocable level..... this wouldnt end here... when you start witnessing the changes (or rather the unseen/hidden sides of a persona) you get stunned and question yourselves - what made you friends at first place, i should have known him more.

We rush into relationships as Friends, good friends and best friends on the only ground that we have good talks and have good time together. This may be a reason why relations failing these days with far increased frequency.... now normally everybody is good until/unless you see bad side of him as in how capable is he :

In handling unusual and uncomfortable situations

In having a rational view of worse situations

In giving an ear to everyone in a broken relation

In replacing shoes

In efforts of make-up

Having had bad and good experiences in friendship I only now have realised - it isn't worthy making a Friend unless you have reasons to trust and respect someone, this basically is the core string that lasts longest and strongest to testify worse situations , those might or might not be the ones with who you crack jokes or lol but they are the true material who well deserve the honorable title of a "Friend" , must you keep rest all as acquaintance so that you atleast dont fool yourself and get carried away in a relation only to be ditched later.

So the point is (in my opinion ofcourse) : must you verify the capacity of a person on above listed points before committing or becoming "friends"

Tell me your views even if you can't wait to write that i don't make any sense to you...

~Cheers

Whether to be Die heart fan of someone??

Hi guys below is an interesting argument between me and my friend Dharmveer on whether to like some one die heart or not, pls leave your precious comments too ...here goes...

[12:00:53] Dharamveer Saxena: bhai I m not talking that he is efficient or not .. ya I m better ... I m just telling you that no one should be so die heart fan of any one

[12:00:51] Nitin Sharma: yar it's a matter of personal choice

[12:01:03] Nitin Sharma: i think u must be die heart fan of many pple

[12:01:08] Nitin Sharma: seeing their good things

[12:01:19] Nitin Sharma: of u start seeing negative things more

[12:01:27] Nitin Sharma: we cant ever be fan of anyone

[12:01:39] Nitin Sharma: i am looking for some serius mentor in my life

[12:01:59] Nitin Sharma: i want to be die heart fan of some very efficient personality

[12:02:04] Nitin Sharma: the way he is

[12:02:19] Nitin Sharma: but not able to find my idol as yet

[12:02:24] Nitin Sharma: i hope koi jaldi mile

[12:02:46] Nitin Sharma: that is y i created account on sillicon india

[12:02:52] Nitin Sharma: there u can make ur mentors

[12:03:06] Nitin Sharma: very highly placed IT professionals

[12:03:19] Nitin Sharma: they willingly agree to be ur mentor

[12:03:36] Nitin Sharma: but so far havn got enuf time to explore that, will do soon

[12:03:47] Dharamveer Saxena: yr if you like any quality in otherwhich attract you .. then try to build that thing in u.. but Y to become a die heart fan

[12:04:10] Dharamveer Saxena: pata nahin.. but I can't

[12:04:20] Nitin Sharma: look if i like amitabh it doesnt mean i have to act

[12:04:20] Dharamveer Saxena: be a die heart fan of anyone

[12:04:36] Nitin Sharma: this thing comes naturally

[12:04:42] Nitin Sharma: u dont become fan out of choice

[12:04:52] Nitin Sharma: its deep subcounscious feeling

[12:04:56] Nitin Sharma: u knw respect

[12:05:01] Nitin Sharma: it comes from inside

[12:05:12] Nitin Sharma: like m not fan of "VS"

[12:05:23] Dharamveer Saxena: till fan is ok.. I m fan of amitabh.. but I am not a die heart fan of him who always try to follow him..

[12:05:27] Nitin Sharma: but some of his things have created lot of respect for him in me

[12:05:29] Dharamveer Saxena: in each things

[12:06:10] Nitin Sharma: man big things can be achieved only with extreme feelings

[12:06:18] Nitin Sharma: mediocre things dont help these days

[12:06:30] Nitin Sharma: do everythng anythng with die heart feeling

[12:06:39] Nitin Sharma: thats somethng not everyone can do

[12:06:45] Dharamveer Saxena: extreme feelings wrt to achiveing that big thing.. not by following others path

[12:06:47] Nitin Sharma: fan can be anyone

[12:07:02] Dharamveer Saxena: who achived that big thing

[12:07:13] Nitin Sharma: ya that is also true that dont get carried awaya stay unbiased and mature

[12:07:50] Nitin Sharma: but at our age we probably dont have enuf expereience to be that mature. we cannt see all the paths

[12:08:05] Nitin Sharma: so best way is to follow someone who's alrdy doing well and alrdy there

[12:08:10] Nitin Sharma: u get me?

[12:09:00] Dharamveer Saxena: galat

[12:09:02] Dharamveer Saxena: galt

[12:09:04] Dharamveer Saxena: galat

[12:09:13] Dharamveer Saxena: I will explain u in the break...

[12:09:21] Dharamveer Saxena: don't type

[12:09:22] Dharamveer Saxena: wait

[12:10:21] Dharamveer Saxena: In simple words: no one should be a die heart fan or a total follower of other...

[12:10:51] Nitin Sharma: My view is this only is the way forward

[12:11:12] Nitin Sharma: In such fast pace lives you dont have time to explore everythng urselves

[12:11:32] Nitin Sharma: test the one who u r becoming fan of..take time to judge

[12:11:51] Nitin Sharma: then committ and follow....with ofcourse OPen eyes

[12:12:04] Dharamveer Saxena: yes.. so just learn the things that other had learnt from there experience but ismain die heart fan ki baat kahana se aa gayi

[12:12:32] Nitin Sharma: ok lets now take ur definition of "Die heart fan"

[12:12:54] Nitin Sharma: this topic is getting interesting m gonna post this on my blog

[12:13:10] Nitin Sharma: but lets ensure we end up with conclusion

[12:13:17] Dharamveer Saxena: sure

[12:16:12] Nitin Sharma: Ok for me die heart fan means ... i close look at someones tasks, startegies and planning and ofcourse attitude

[12:16:37] Nitin Sharma: and I try to inculacate many habits of him in me coz i blv wht he does is right

[12:16:40] Dharamveer Saxena: I think Die heart Fan are those who always wants to be like the one (who attracted him) .. one who follows blindly on the path of his mentor.. etc etc

[12:17:31] Dharamveer Saxena: Ok.. so you should just try to build all those gud quality in you...

[12:17:42] Nitin Sharma: yes exactly...but i blv we guys are smart enuf not to follow anyone religiously as we dont follow religion itself these days

[12:17:43] Dharamveer Saxena: but Y to be a DHF

[12:18:24] Nitin Sharma: for the simple reason that if you keep judging some one all the time...you have no time left to follow his good side

[12:19:01] Nitin Sharma: and I think to move forward in life if u get ready made chart and plan little cost of wrong deeds is quite ok

[12:19:33] Dharamveer Saxena: yr... if some one is soft spoken.. and if its attract you then try to be like him and try to build that thing in you...

[12:20:02] Nitin Sharma: But the best part is if you are capable and mature enuf to draw best life plan on your own nuthng can compete

[12:20:04] Dharamveer Saxena: if a person is hard worker and if it attract you then try to grasp that thing.. and move forward

[12:23:31] Nitin Sharma: which is right..thats exactly wht i mean.

Unhappy people convince you to stay unhappy

An extract by Swami Sukhabodhananda :


One can give only from what one has. When you understand this, you will be kind. You cannot expect a scorpion to kiss you. People around, with their hurt bodies, create pain for others. Their minds are so noisy that they create noise. Quite often, we hold on to the pain for a week, a month and create a hurt body in us. We cannot shake it loose from our memory. The hurt body starts eating our joy. It starts reliving the experience of abuse and creates a mountain out of a molehill. We have a choice to nurture abuse within us, reliving those moments or we can simply shake it off and move on.
Why do we suffer pain by recreating it moment to moment?
Thought creates energy. If thought is negative, then energy is negative and that creates pain. A hurt body looks at the world through pain. A hurt body will try its best to sustain pain. It is a matter of survival. So, it loves to attract pain and sustain pain. It will use logic to protect it. Look at unhappy people. They will convince you to be miserable.
All that you can do is to create a bliss body in you. There are five layers in you: the physical body, the pranic body, the breath body, the mental body, the intellectual body and the bliss body.
All these layers in us have energies. It is in potential form. Just as there is latent fire in wood and by rubbing the wood it is invoked. In the same way you have to awaken the physical body through exercise, yoga, dance and a balanced diet. Keep the body alive and enthusiastic. You will then kindle a happy energy through the body.
The pranic or breath body has to be awakened. Breathe deeply by doing pranayama and find a different kind of joy surfacing in you. Shallow breathing creates lower energy field while deep breathing enhances one’s aliveness. The mental body can be awakened if you keep your mind calm. A calm mind has a different joy; a noisy mind is an avenue for energy leakage. When your intellect is open and receptive, yet another dimension of blissful energy arises. One who is open and receptive is always learning. That’s why children learn very fast. In deep sleep, the bliss body opens up naturally. In the waking state, if one is committed to be happy and learns to look at life as a celebration, the bliss centre will be awakened.
Could opening these five bodies help improve a marital relationship?
If we are depleted, there is leakage of energy. We then try to draw energy from our partner. Each one starts sapping the other’s energy and we become dependent on the other. Both feel miserable. Then you become possessive. When there is resistance to restriction of freedom, the partner feels rejected and dejected. You wait to settle scores at the opportune time. There is a war of roses.
However, if you have tapped all the five layers within you, you will overflow with joy. You will not sap the energy of the other as you are overflowing. You will not be dependent on the other but you can learn to be interdependent, the there is a sense of belonging. The relationship will reach new heights when you open your body, prana, mind, intellect and bliss centres.